Please Share the Door, I'm Freezing is a marriage workbook designed to help couples create the oneness in their marriage that God desires and describes. Authors Donna and David Lane, who are both Christian counselors and professors of counseling, bring the additional perspective of having been successful in marriage for over 35 years. Topics include God's basic elements for a happy marriage, identifying and removing beliefs that create division and destroy relationships, praying together effectively, submitting to each other in love, avoiding pitfalls, living in peace, becoming allies instead of adversaries, partnering with God, and bearing good fruit in marriage. The Lanes believe that being fully who God created us to be is the only way to live fully as one in our marriage. As a result, the workbook also offers suggestions for strengthening our relationship with God and for personal growth, while providing steps for deepening marriage relationships. Each chapter builds on the previous section, allowing couples to learn new concepts while reinforcing earlier ideas and strategies. Each section ends with discussion questions for couples to complete together, and easy-to-understand homework to practice what the couple is learning. The Lanes review common problems in marriages and reveal basic tactics used by the enemy of God to destroy marriages. They present clear, step-by-step strategies to overcome those common problems, and to stand against, and with the help of God to defeat, those tactics that create division.
The workbook is designed in such a way that it can be used by couples on their own, in small groups, and in church programs, retreats, and seminars. It is also an effective tool for premarital work, where young couples can establish healthy patterns of relating for the entirety of their marriage.