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How to Be Kinky: A Beginner's Guide to BDSM Kindle Edition

by Morpheous (Author) Format: Kindle Edition
4.1 out of 5 stars 91 ratings
How to be Kinky is a primer on the multifaceted world of kink and getting into BDSM play. It is for beginners and novices, couples and singles. Here, Morpheous tackles topics that aren’t regularly addressed in other sex etiquette books. Most books on BDSM lean heavily towards clinical issues and tools/techniques. There are books on being “a top” or “a bottom”, but the wide spectrum of human dynamics in BDSM play is not covered.

This beginner’s guide addresses all aspects of enhancing your sex life with kinky play. Singles and couples who are new to the scene will appreciate material on the basics of BDSM play and role playing, how to turn your bedroom into a den of iniquity, discovering kinky uses for common household objects, proper protocols and etiquette at fetish events, the physiological and psychological aspects of pleasure and pain, and how to maintain physical and emotional safety during play.

This enhanced second edition is reworked in full color, with gorgeous and sexy photographs, as well as 15 easy to follow photo essays. Communication, fun, and safety are at the forefront of this top-selling beginner's guide, and once you’ve finished you’ll be wondering How to Be Kinkier!
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  1. Print length
    410 pages
  2. Language
    English
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    Green Candy Press
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  5. Publication date
    October 1, 2012
  6. File size
    13.8 MB
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"I was struck right away by [How to Be Kinky’s] honesty, accessibility, practicality, inclusivity, good humor, and confident, friendly tone." — Nina Hartley, porn star, author, and sex educator

About the Author

A BDSM sex educator for more than a decade, Morpheous has taught workshops in such subjects as rope bondage, the aesthetics of bondage and fetish photography, and advanced and beginner BDSM. He has also taught skill-set specific workshops for professional doms and subs, served as the education director at Toronto’s Bound and Gagged dungeon, and written the hugely popular How to Be Kinky, a beginner’s guide for all things fetish and the follow up How to Be Kinkier.

Morpheous regularly organizes conferences featuring top sex experts including Midori, Chanta Rose and Laura Antiou. These are 3-5 day long events that bring together participants from all over North America. He also performs his own edgy and artistic style of rope bondage at fetish events, galleries, and book launches and his photography has been exhibited in Toronto galleries, including Nuit Blanche, the city’s highly-regarded all-night art installation. His work can be seen at LordMorpheous.com and HowtoBeKinkier.ca.

Morpheous holds a Bachelor’s degree in Education and an Honors degree in Visual Art from the University of Western Ontario, as well as a degree in broadcasting from Fanshawe College. He identifies as a Dominant, and lives in downtown Toronto where he is much sought-after in more ways than one.

Morpheous always encourages discourse between partners and players to facilitate openness and understanding.

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B00AFGCE5S
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Green Candy Press
  • Accessibility ‏ : ‎ Learn more
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ October 1, 2012
  • Edition ‏ : ‎ Second
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 13.8 MB
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Not Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 410 pages
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1937866242
  • Page Flip ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Customer Reviews:
    4.1 out of 5 stars 91 ratings

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Customers find the book very informative and well-written, with one review noting it's better than "50 Shades" as an introduction to the subject. The book features gorgeous step-by-step photographs in full color, and one customer particularly appreciates its artistic display of BDSM.

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13 customers mention "Information quality"13 positive0 negative

Customers find the book very informative and excellent as a guide, with one customer noting it provides a useful primer for terminology.

"I absolutely love this book,it explores not only the many different aspects of BDSM lifestyle,it also goes into terms and definitions to widen your..." Read more

"...It encourages new forms of creativity and communication. That kind of full-time anticipation makes the love making itself infinitely more satisfying...." Read more

"...this book has gorgeous step by step photographs in full color and tackles topics that other publications can't handle...." Read more

"This book is a very useful primer for terminology and methods used within the BDSM community at large- a nice toe in to the door...." Read more

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Customers find the book enjoyable to read, with one customer noting it serves as a better introduction to BDSM than "50 Shades."

"I absolutely love this book,it explores not only the many different aspects of BDSM lifestyle,it also goes into terms and definitions to widen your..." Read more

"Book 2 of 3 thus far, fabulous read, borrowed a copy, bought a copy, and just bought a second copy for a friend...." Read more

"...lots of experience and love to the subject, so it is well worth spending your time reading it. For the newbie it must be a gold mine...." Read more

"excellent book, very well written, from a realistic and sincere point of view...." Read more

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Customers appreciate the writing style of the book, finding it well-crafted and easy to read, with one customer noting it includes real accounts from individuals.

"...to read,this book is much more fun,and easy to read,easing you into it,not throwing you in the middle of it...." Read more

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Customers appreciate the pictures in the book, with one customer noting the gorgeous step-by-step photographs in full color, and another mentioning that the images are more relaxed than most fetish photography.

"...role play,what i also like about this book is there are picture illustrations, and its fun to read,other books like this ive bought have been way to..." Read more

"...Those images are more relaxed than most fetish photography in that the models are all having a good time; smiling, giggling, smirking and enjoying..." Read more

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Customers find the book visually appealing, with one noting its artistic display of BDSM scenes and another appreciating its sexy fetish fashions.

"...theatrical role playing and a whole universe of desirable, very sexy fetish fashions to collect that people in long-term relationships will greatly..." Read more

"...I enjoy Morpheous and his keen eye for the artistic display of BDSM and have learned a good bit from all his publications and would very much like..." Read more

"...Master Morpheus gives an inside look to bdsm, including all the vital things one has to know before making his/her fantasies come to real life...." Read more

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Top reviews from the United States

  • VacuousCarnage
    5.0 out of 5 stars How to be kinky: a beginners guide to BDSM
    Reviewed in the United States on January 2, 2012
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    I absolutely love this book,it explores not only the many different aspects of BDSM lifestyle,it also goes into terms and definitions to widen your understanding of them.I am somewhat experienced in this lifestyle,but there was alot i hadn't yet explored and this book introduced me to them.it helps you understand what you need to do to have and maintain the kind of kinky relationship you want,weather it be just sometimes to spice it up,or as more of a continuous role play,what i also like about this book is there are picture illustrations, and its fun to read,other books like this ive bought have been way to scientific for my boyfriend (whom im introducing to this lifestyle) to read,this book is much more fun,and easy to read,easing you into it,not throwing you in the middle of it. i recommend this book to anyone who is new to this and wants to explore it,or maybe to someone who has a partner they are looking to introduce to it,or even to somewhat experienced individuals who are just looking to understand more,its an all around awesome book! two thumbs up
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  • James R. Holland
    4.0 out of 5 stars Another Guide For Spicing Up One's Love Life
    Reviewed in the United States on March 15, 2009
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    This book is exactly what the title claims. It's definitely for newbies looking to add a little spice to the bedroom and or basement. The author recommends that readers "take your time to learn what gets you hot and bothered and rest assured that just because you like a little bit of 'tie me up with some slap and tickle' in the bedroom doesn't necessarily mean you will give up your day job and start wearing leather 24/7." The sex educator author of this tome, further "wants to encourage others to explore their sexuality in a safe way without fear of reprisal, guilt, or shame either with one partner, or several, or solo. Flirt with your urges and explore."
    The author, Morpheous, who is also a Toronto-based fetish photographer/artist has illustrated this beginner's guide book with many of his own pictures. Those images are more relaxed than most fetish photography in that the models are all having a good time; smiling, giggling, smirking and enjoying their role playing. This is a big improvement over the usual images that are designed to illustrate and reinforce the erotic aspects of fantasies of pain, punishment, fear and suffering. This is also a more realist portrayal of the activities detailed in this volume. The writing style has a touch of Toronto to it and that's a good thing. One of the more unusual chapters is a step-by-step guide for the reader and his partner to safely visit a professional Dominatrix or "Domina" as well as exploring the non-professional scene. This is an excellent guide for those people who will quickly discover that they only want to add a little kink as a form of foreplay to their normal sexual relationships. There are so many kinds of kinky activities including theatrical role playing and a whole universe of desirable, very sexy fetish fashions to collect that people in long-term relationships will greatly enhance their traditional love life. Practicing a little fetish adds some spark to what may have become routine.
    It provides lots of opportunities throughout the day for planning and dreaming up the next exciting fantasy session(s). It encourages new forms of creativity and communication. That kind of full-time anticipation makes the love making itself infinitely more satisfying. A little hidden bruise, hickey, scratch mark or extra tender nipple from an earlier love making session provides constant reminders of the previous night's bliss.
    32 people found this helpful
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  • StickyBunz
    5.0 out of 5 stars This book delivers!
    Reviewed in the United States on December 23, 2012
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    Probably the best book on kinky education out there today. Where other books promise a lot and deliver a little - this book has gorgeous step by step photographs in full color and tackles topics that other publications can't handle. I'm very happy with this book and its helped me and my partner spice up our bedroom life in ways we never thought possible before!
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  • A. Customer
    3.0 out of 5 stars Useful light intro to BDSM, not introvert friendly
    Reviewed in the United States on August 25, 2014
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    This book is a very useful primer for terminology and methods used within the BDSM community at large- a nice toe in to the door. You'll learn just enough to get an idea of a bit of the potential paths (the more common, less hardcore fetish/kink) that you could take, to set you exploring and figuring out where you would like to take it.

    The down side is that it has a heavy bias towards extroversion: parties, clubs, socializing in the BDSM/fetish community, increasingly downplaying more introverted, private expressions of play as less desirable to party life, particularly as the book wore on towards the end. The result for me personally was intense stress, and being turned off and repelled from something that has great meaning to me... so if you're looking for something to broach the topic with a lover that is more introverted and less the social butterfly or exhibitionist, I do advise caution and much communication- try reading it together to buffer it, or you'll loose them at a fragile deciding moment.

    I will definitely be reading his other books, but... it takes extreme effort to overcome that personality type barrier.
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  • JennMarie
    5.0 out of 5 stars Morpheous and Kink were meant to be
    Reviewed in the United States on June 28, 2014
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    Book 2 of 3 thus far, fabulous read, borrowed a copy, bought a copy, and just bought a second copy for a friend. I enjoy Morpheous and his keen eye for the artistic display of BDSM and have learned a good bit from all his publications and would very much like to catch him in conference one day. A good book for those looking to learn about the lifestyle for personal knowledge or simply research aspects.
    2 people found this helpful
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  • Dr. Mabuse
    4.0 out of 5 stars Fun and Kinky
    Reviewed in the United States on November 10, 2010
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    If you have been in the BDSM scene for some years, this book will not offer you much new insight, but it is well written with lots of experience and love to the subject, so it is well worth spending your time reading it. For the newbie it must be a gold mine. I would definitely recommend this as the first book in someones newly started kink library. The book is full of practical hints, of ideas and suggestions for future exploration and it is written with lots of humor -the section about how the author got caught by his mother cleaning his favorite toys made me laugh aloud. Definitely well invested money.
    3 people found this helpful
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  • Angeliki
    5.0 out of 5 stars tips for a kinky life from a master in kink
    Reviewed in the United States on October 1, 2010
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    excellent book, very well written, from a realistic and sincere point of view.
    Master Morpheus gives an inside look to bdsm, including all the vital things one has to know before making his/her fantasies come to real life.
    definitely recommend it, i read it in a sip, totally enlightning.
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  • StickyBunz
    5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent writer
    Reviewed in Canada on May 4, 2017
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    I didn't know I wanted to be tied up until this woman came along!

    The book is great, I learned a lot. Lots of pics in colour, certainly seems better researched than most of the books on bdsm. They are fit to be shoved out on an ice flow in march
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  • Altbayer
    3.0 out of 5 stars Photos are a matter of taste
    Reviewed in Germany on January 11, 2014
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    We are a couple married for almost 40 years and bought this book as a bedtime lecture. When taking a glance into the book, we found the text well suited for beginners with a lot of "down to earth" information and practical how-to tips. We found it very positive that the rather explicit and numerous photos show "normal people" and not the ubiquitous glossy photographs of flawless models lavishly worked over with Photoshop.
    Most of the photos in this book show people almost covered with tattoos and with rather weird piercings. It is a matter of taste, some people may find this arousing, others not. Also many photos show lesbian and gay play, which some people may find exciting, some not (as for example we).
    As a source of inspiration and excitement for players with some practical experience we find this book not so good
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  • Amazon Customer
    5.0 out of 5 stars Worth the money.
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on March 12, 2015
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    I bought this as myself and my wife already enjoy a little "lightweight" bondage and spanking. We were basically "playing at it" and we wanted to to learn if there was anything we could do to spice our our playtime up even more so we bought this book.
    I`m about half way through the book and so far is well set out with plenty of illustrations, the majority are relevant to the text. The American author Morpheous certainly knows his stuff and is a good narrator. The book is written in an informative and humorous way but i thought that the humour was a little oddball in places.The narrative is very easy to read and does not assume the reader has any prior knowledge of BDSM world. The various kinks that make up BDSM are explained and there are "how to" photo tutorials, for example how to tie someone to a bed.
    I read one or two negative reviews about this book prior to buying it. But these have come from people who are what i would term experienced practitioners of BDSM, who probably have there own "medieval torture chamber" at home.
    I would recommend it to anyone who is curious.about BDSM or anyone wanting to take things further like ourselves.
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  • Paul Gibson
    5.0 out of 5 stars Informative Read
    Reviewed in Canada on May 23, 2014
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    This book answered a lot of questions that I had. I was interested in exploring some kink in my relationship and needed a road map on how to accomplish this. This book provided answers to my questions and provide direction that I had not thought of. It was well illustrated and provided mental direction.
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  • ian
    4.0 out of 5 stars surprised
    Reviewed in Germany on July 1, 2013
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    bought this with it sucessor and both boks well written and easy to understand, gave me many points to discuss with my partner and have had many hours of fun trying out some new ideas
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