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Stay with Me: A novel Kindle Edition
Ilesa, Nigeria. Ever since they first met and fell in love at university, Yejide and Akin have agreed: polygamy is not for them. But four years into their marriage—after consulting fertility doctors and healers, and trying strange teas and unlikely cures—Yejide is still not pregnant. She assumes she still has time—until her in-laws arrive on her doorstep with a young woman they introduce as Akin’s second wife. Furious, shocked, and livid with jealousy, Yejide knows the only way to save her marriage is to get pregnant. Which, finally, she does—but at a cost far greater than she could have dared to imagine.
The unforgettable story of a marriage as seen through the eyes of both husband and wife, Stay With Me asks how much we can sacrifice for the sake of family.
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherVintage
- Publication dateAugust 22, 2017
- File size1.2 MB
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"[A] stunning debut novel…. At once, a gothic parable about pride and betrayal; a thoroughly contemporary—and deeply moving—portrait of a marriage; and a novel, in the lineage of great works by Chinua Achebe and Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie…. Adebayo, who is 29, is an exceptional storyteller. She writes not just with extraordinary grace but with genuine wisdom about love and loss and the possibility of redemption. She has written a powerfully magnetic and heartbreaking book." —Michiko Kakutani, The New York Times
"A bright, big-hearted demonstration of female spirit, as well as the damage done by the boundlessness of male pride." —The Guardian
“Ayobami Adebayo’s taut, intimate debut novel, Stay with Me... careens backward and forward in time against a backdrop of politics, protests, crime and civil unrest... Close to Lauren Groff’s Fates and Furies…. Conveyed with an operatic intensity that almost approaches the pitch of Elena Ferrante’s The Days of Abandonment.” —Anita Felicelli, The San Francisco Chronicle
“Stunning…. A work of intimate yet powerful—and even, at times, shocking—storytelling that will grow your sensitivity chip and make your world bigger, too.” —ELLE
“An absolute must-read and a story that will be shared for many decades to come.” —Emma Roberts, Refinery29
“Beautiful… Phenomenal… A layered story of love, sacrifice and hope… Adebayo’s debut is undoubtedly one of the best reads of this year.” —Lihle Z. Mtshali, Essence.com
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"[A] stunning debut novel…. At once, a gothic parable about pride and betrayal; a thoroughly contemporary—and deeply moving—portrait of a marriage; and a novel, in the lineage of great works by Chinua Achebe and Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie…. Adebayo, who is 29, is an exceptional storyteller. She writes not just with extraordinary grace but with genuine wisdom about love and loss and the possibility of redemption. She has written a powerfully magnetic and heartbreaking book." —Michiko Kakutani, The New York Times
"A bright, big-hearted demonstration of female spirit, as well as the damage done by the boundlessness of male pride." —The Guardian
"Adebayo gifts readers with an emotionally powerful first novel that relies less on literary artifice and more on old-fashioned storytelling. She plumbs the depths of the loving marriage of Akin and Yejide, a couple complete in themselves, until Akin’s family sows division by excoriating Yejide for failing to produce children… Adebayo’s work makes a blazing entry onto the list of young, talented writers from Nigeria. Readers who pick up this debut novel will not put it down until they’ve finished." —Ally Bissell, Library Journal (Starred Review)
“Adebayo describes parenthood and love with heartbreaking prose. She deftly reveals secrets and the decisions that set life-altering events in motion. The story’s fast pace brings surprising twists to Akin, Yejide, and their families’ lives.” —Booklist (Starred Review)
"Culminates in a tender, satisfying conclusion." —Publishers Weekly (Starred and Boxed Review)
“Affecting and powerful. . . . Adebayo’s prose is a pleasure: immediate, unpretentious and flecked with whip-smart Nigerian-English dialogue. She handles weighty themes with an absence of sentimentality.” –Sunday Times
“This terrific first novel (shortlisted for the Baileys women’s prize for fiction) deals with the daily stresses of living with the political upheavals of the time but the real drama is happening in Yejide’s womb. Adebayo unfolds the many layers of truth with insight and skill.” –The Times (UK)
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JOS, DECEMBER 2008
I must leave this city today and come to you. My bags are packed and the empty rooms remind me that I should have left a week ago. Musa, my driver, has slept at the security guard’s post every night since last Friday, waiting for me to wake him up at dawn so we can set out on time. But my bags still sit in the living room, gathering dust.
I have given most of what I acquired here—furniture, electronic devices, even house fittings—to the stylists who worked in my salon. So, every night for a week now, I’ve tossed about on this bed without a television to shorten my insomniac hours.
There’s a house waiting for me in Ife, right outside the university where you and I first met. I imagine it now, a house not unlike this one, its many rooms designed to nurture a big family: man, wife and many children. I was supposed to leave a day after my hair dryers were taken down. The plan was to spend a week setting up my new salon and furnishing the house. I wanted my new life in place before seeing you again.
It’s not that I’ve become attached to this place. I will not miss the few friends I made, the people who do not know the woman I was before I came here, the men who over the years have thought they were in love with me. Once I leave, I probably won’t even remember the one who asked me to be his wife. Nobody here knows I’m still married to you. I only tell them a slice of the story: I was barren and my husband took another wife. No one has ever probed further, so I’ve never told them about my children.
I have wanted to leave since the three corpers in the National Youth Service programme were killed. I decided to shut down my salon and the jewellery shop before I even knew what I would do next, before the invitation to your father’s funeral arrived like a map to show me the way. I have memorised the three young men’s names and I know what each one studied at the university. My Olamide would have been about their age; she too would just have been leaving university about now. When I read about them, I think of her.
Akin, I often wonder if you think about her too.
Although sleep stays away, every night I shut my eyes and pieces of the life I left behind come back to me. I see the batik pillowcases in our bedroom, our neighbours and your family which, for a misguided period, I thought was also mine. I see you. Tonight I see the bedside lamp you gave me a few weeks after we got married. I could not sleep in the dark and you had nightmares if we left the fluorescent lights on. That lamp was your solution. You bought it without telling me you’d come up with a compromise, without asking me if I wanted a lamp. And as I stroked its bronze base and admired the tinted glass panels that formed its shade, you asked me what I would take out of the building if our house was burning. I didn’t think about it before saying, Our baby, even though we did not have children yet. Something, you said, not someone. But you seemed a little hurt that, when I thought it was someone, I did not consider rescuing you.
I drag myself out of bed and change out of my nightgown. I will not waste another minute. The questions you must answer, the ones I’ve choked on for over a decade, quicken my steps as I grab my handbag and go into the living room.
There are seventeen bags here, ready to be carried into my car. I stare at the bags, recalling the contents of each one. If this house was on fire, what would I take? I have to think about this because the first thing that occurs to me is nothing. I choose the overnight bag I’d planned to bring with me for the funeral and a leather pouch filled with gold jewellery. Musa can bring the rest of the bags to me another time.
This is it then—fifteen years here and, though my house is not on fire, all I’m taking is a bag of gold and a change of clothes. The things that matter are inside me, locked up below my breast as though in a grave, a place of permanence, my coffin-like treasure chest.
I step outside. The air is freezing and the black sky is turning purple in the horizon as the sun ascends. Musa is leaning against the car, cleaning his teeth with a stick. He spits into a cup as I approach and puts the chewing stick in his breast pocket. He opens the car door, we exchange greetings and I climb into the back seat.
Musa switches on the car radio and searches for stations. He settles for one that is starting the day’s broadcast with a recording of the national anthem. The security guard waves goodbye as we drive out of the compound. The road stretches before us, shrouded in a darkness transitioning into dawn as it leads me back to you.
Product details
- ASIN : B01MTJQK9M
- Publisher : Vintage
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- Publication date : August 22, 2017
- Language : English
- File size : 1.2 MB
- Screen Reader : Supported
- Enhanced typesetting : Enabled
- X-Ray : Enabled
- Word Wise : Enabled
- Print length : 259 pages
- ISBN-13 : 978-0451494610
- Page Flip : Enabled
- Best Sellers Rank: #113,890 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
- #873 in Contemporary Literary Fiction
- #937 in Women's Literary Fiction
- #1,169 in Women's Historical Fiction
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- Reviewed in the United States on November 22, 2019Ayobami Adebayo’s Stay With Me is an unconventional imperfect love story about the struggles and cultural dilemmas of Nigerian husband and wife, Yejide and Akin in their modernized monogamous relationship. Through a series of loosely structured letters between the main characters to one another over the decades-long period of their relationship, they take us through the inevitable pits and peaks of their marriage relating to the outside influences of their society, culture, and familial pressure. Primarily, the novel unpacks the rippling impact of the main character, Yejide’s, struggle with infertility in a taboo monogamous marriage to Akin. Adebayo’s gripping novel sheds light on a crucial yet underrepresented aspect of the African experience in a modernizing, westernizing society. She provides a fictional yet accurate account of the dilemma of adapting to an ever-changing world while also maintaining respect and solidarity with the cultural origins of one’s community. Through Yejide’s conflicted inner dialogue, sporadic patterns of mental disarray, and questionable decision making in the novel, the author does a compelling and accurate job of displaying just how impactful and oppressive dealing with this conflicted identity can be on an African individual in the westernizing world or rather for any individual altogether. Adebayo also presents the theme of the unwavering love between Akin and Yejide despite the various tribulations in their complex marriage. This works as a refreshing plot element considering the commonly toted stereotypes about faulty African men in relationships or “African” polygamous relationships altogether. Moreover, in the backdrop of the story, Adebayo presents issues of national violent rebellion and community violence in Nigeria, which works to emphasize the reality of the characters’ experiences while also symbolically highlighting the themes of disarray and conflict inside and out of their relationship with one another as well as the internal conflict within the main characters themselves. Overall, the book sends compelling crucial messages about the complexities of love, human nature, and culture inevitably within all of us and how these complexities can positively or negatively impact our lives and relationships.
- Reviewed in the United States on November 19, 2024In "Stay With Me," Ayobami Adebayo delivers a poignant and deeply emotional narrative exploring the complexities of marriage, fertility, and societal expectations in Nigeria. The story follows Yejide and Akin, who, after years of struggling to conceive, find their vows tested when Akin's family introduces a second wife to their lives. Adebayo artfully navigates Yejide's feelings of betrayal, jealousy, and desperation as she grapples with the dire need to secure her place in Akin's life, leading her down a path filled with unintended consequences.
Told from alternating perspectives, the novel offers a rich and nuanced examination of both characters' inner struggles and desires. Adebayo’s masterful storytelling highlights the weight of cultural pressures and the sacrifices made for the sake of family, ultimately prompting readers to reflect on the boundaries of love and loyalty. "Stay With Me" is an unforgettable and compelling tale that lingers in the mind long after the last page is turned, making it a must-read for fans of poignant literary fiction.
- Reviewed in the United States on March 22, 2018I don't think this book would have found its way into my hands without the MMD Book Club. It is a touching, sad, funny and beautiful story of love, loss and finding out what you can live with and what you can't. Stay With Me is set in the political upheaval of Nigeria that echos the upheaval of family and love
I loved learning about the customs and superstitions of this culture and also how younger generations bridged between modern living and old beliefs. Pressures are high to conform to some of the cultural norms (many wives and children) but not to others (not educating women). Yejide and especially Akin are caught between their own wants and the expectations of their families.
Yejide was a very strong female character and I felt her pain and loss. She very much loved Akin and even though she felt betrayed by him she still loved him. She still chose to be his wife. Akin was a character that I liked at first but as the story went on, I liked him less and less. He is truly devoted to Yejide but I found him weak and hypocritical.
Stay With Me is a very emotional but beautiful book and I am so glad that I read it and was able to discuss it with others.
- Reviewed in the United States on March 11, 2023This has alot to give to a reader looking for relating to life-filled drama.
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- TuyaReviewed in South Africa on March 26, 2025
5.0 out of 5 stars Five star read
A book I will always recommend, arrived in great condition.
- miss cReviewed in the United Arab Emirates on September 14, 2022
5.0 out of 5 stars Fantastically written!
I absolutely loved this book and couldn't put it down! The story keeps you gripped throughout and really delves into Nigerian culture and customs regarding marriage and child-rearing.
I wanted to read it again as soon as I finished it.
- T BoatengReviewed in the United Kingdom on January 1, 2025
5.0 out of 5 stars Stay with me
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- Book loverReviewed in India on December 29, 2023
5.0 out of 5 stars A powerful and truly African story
Stay With Me.
A powerful and truly African story.
Hats off to Ayobami Adebayo for her debut novel. I bought this book after reading her second book, ‘A Spell of Good Things’, which was long-listed for the 2023 Booker’s Prize, and she was unfortunate that she didn’t get the prize.
Ayobami has chosen a very delicate and sensitive topic of male impotence and his ego and has challenged the typical patriarchal Nigerian society. The narration is flawless and emotionally charged, and she ensures that the female lead always has an edge.
I was thinking of a different ending.
This story and even acknowledgements show that she is not influenced by any European colonialism or American empire, which writers from South-Asian and African countries consider a must-have and inescapable.
I recommend one must have this book on their bookshelf.
Five stars and a stroke of good luck for her bright future, including a Nobel in literature.
Majul.
Delhi.
India.
Book loverA powerful and truly African story
Reviewed in India on December 29, 2023
A powerful and truly African story.
Hats off to Ayobami Adebayo for her debut novel. I bought this book after reading her second book, ‘A Spell of Good Things’, which was long-listed for the 2023 Booker’s Prize, and she was unfortunate that she didn’t get the prize.
Ayobami has chosen a very delicate and sensitive topic of male impotence and his ego and has challenged the typical patriarchal Nigerian society. The narration is flawless and emotionally charged, and she ensures that the female lead always has an edge.
I was thinking of a different ending.
This story and even acknowledgements show that she is not influenced by any European colonialism or American empire, which writers from South-Asian and African countries consider a must-have and inescapable.
I recommend one must have this book on their bookshelf.
Five stars and a stroke of good luck for her bright future, including a Nobel in literature.
Majul.
Delhi.
India.
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- RosmoReviewed in Australia on August 21, 2024
5.0 out of 5 stars Gripping
A great read.