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I'LL HAVE WHAT SHE'S HAVING: MEMOIR OF A REFORMED PEOPLE PLEASER Paperback – April 5, 2023

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It’s time to redefine what it means to “man-up.” Ignore those critics who say men should suck-it-up. You need to believe that showing your emotions is a strength, not a weakness!

Nobody has the right to tell men to act a certain way and women to act another. I’m here to tell you that it’s a damn good idea to seek support and ask for Help!

Do you know who you really are?

Do you know your purpose in life?

Is your purpose to be the best father, brother, son, husband…?

Are you exactly the man you want to be or know you can be?

Perhaps not, however, you can be! All it takes is your willingness and effort.

Are you living your life as the person you really are or as the person others want you to be?

Lack of self-awareness can cause us to go through the motions in life without
direction.

For me, it took four simultaneous desire-and-faith-shaking life crises to
have me realize that there IS a better way to live.

You can be the whole man that you were meant to be! As a man we can be emotional, vulnerable, and still be strong. I know from my personal experience; PARADIGM SHIFTS DO HAPPEN!

This book is for anyone who wants to avoid the pitfalls of living a life with limited beliefs and finding ways to stop mental self-sabotage in order to live a more balanced, happy, and healthy life. STAND UP AND MAN UP!
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    979-8988140900
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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B0C1J5MLF8
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Profit Compassion, LLC (April 5, 2023)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • Paperback ‏ : ‎ 165 pages
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 979-8988140900
  • Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 9.6 ounces
  • Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.5 x 0.38 x 8.5 inches
  • Customer Reviews:
    3.9 out of 5 stars 11 ratings

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DREW DERANEY

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Drew Deraney now travels the world both to Live and Virtual Events showing mostly men the steps needed to strengthen self-identity and self-worth, to overcome self-limiting beliefs, and to build confidence while being authentic, maintaining boundaries and to transcend people pleasing skills to become the person they are destined to be. Drew challenges them to reach deep inside and make a lasting impact.

In a 9-month span, Drew experienced a grueling divorce, job loss, his son’s suicidal ideations, and his father’s death which devastated Drew emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. It is a commonality for men to consider any challenge as a weakness as well as to show emotion and ask for help. While writing his book, Drew realized he was not the only man suffering in silence. With more clarity of purpose than ever, he began asking for help. Drew Deraney’s mission is to help especially men, release their inner greatness by showing vulnerability, keeping in integrity of their power, and making a great impact on the people in their lives both personally and professionally.

Drew Deraney was born in Brooklyn, NY and raised in Ho-Ho-Kus, NJ where he still lives to this day caring for his elderly mom and his 3 adult children Matthew, Nicholas, and Emma. Drew earned his B.A. in Psychology, M.A. in Applied Psychology, and two psychology research publications while at Fairfield University; a scholarship from the Healthcare Financial Management Association; and his M.B.A. in Health Care Administration from Baruch College / Mount Sinai School of Medicine in NY. His hospital career spanned 24 years where he was co-chair of the Leadership Institute, spoke at JD Power, was one of three leaders interviewed by The Commonwealth Fund, received his Communicating with Empathy Trainer certification and is a Certified Patient Experience Professional. Four years ago, Drew founded Profit Compassion LLC, an entity to coach and empower mostly men to create resiliency and authenticity as Chief Resilience Officer. Drew is the podcast host of ‘From Caving in to Crushing It’ and recently became a best-selling author with his book ‘I’ll Have What She’s Having’ - Memoir of a reformed People Pleaser.

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Drew Deraney is a remarkable individual on a powerful mission to help men redefine what it means to "man-up" and to embrace their authentic selves. His book challenges the traditional notions of masculinity and encourages men to show their emotions, seek support, and live as the person they truly are, rather than conforming to societal expectations. Drew's message is both empowering and liberating, as he shares his personal journey and insights on self-identity, self-worth, and the importance of living a purpose-driven life. His words resonate deeply, urging readers to break free from self-limiting beliefs and to strive for a more balanced and fulfilling existence. "I'll Have What She's Having" is a compelling guide for anyone looking to overcome mental self-sabotage, live authentically, and cultivate a greater sense of happiness and well-being. Drew's passion and dedication to his mission shines through every page, making this book a must-read for those seeking positive change in their lives.
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  • Mari-Liis
    5.0 out of 5 stars Honest and beautiful story full of life lessons.
    Reviewed in the United States on May 4, 2023
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    Thank you for sharing your beautiful story with the readers, and I'm sure most of us can relate to many things! I appreciate you sharing vulnerable topics from your past, including your children, spouse, divorce, etc. This book encourages us to look beyond obstacles and is an excellent reminder of how important it is to persevere even if life doesn't go as planned. There is no such thing as failure. There are only lessons to learn and grow from to be a better and stronger human being and have an outstanding balance between living for others and yourself.
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  • Pam Hamingson
    5.0 out of 5 stars An Open and Very Honest Story About Life
    Reviewed in the United States on April 6, 2023
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    Drew shares his personal journey with a clear, direct and intimate voice. I felt that I was next to him as he struggled to meet the challenges of modern life while at the same time recognizing a need for personal growth, boundaries, and awareness. The journey is not unique to Drew, but his willingness to share and put it all out there is refreshing. I'll Have What She's Having is time well spent, its good to know that we all struggle to find our voice and support the ones we love.
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  • Thomas Connors
    4.0 out of 5 stars A great book for anyone dealing with life’s challenges but especially men!
    Reviewed in the United States on April 1, 2023
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    Full disclosure - Drew is a friend of mine and I knew about some of the challenges he’s faced and have personally seen him reinvent himself several times over the years. While Brene Brown and others have written a lot about vulnerability, not much has been written about men’s particular challenges with acknowledging vulnerability. We all know life can be hard and cruel but it is a particularly tough time to be a white male in your 50’s. Drew’s brave discussion of the challenges life has thrown at him and the steps he has taken to overcome is inspirational and helpful to anyone looking for help dealing. Congratulations and thank you Drew for sharing your story! You’re a special guy. We love you and are very proud of you!
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  • Wanda Howard
    5.0 out of 5 stars Inspiring!
    Reviewed in the United States on April 5, 2023
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    The steps from surviving, to coping, then to crushing it in your life are steps that I can relate to, and trying to chart this path on your own can be so disorienting. This book lays out the way forward beautifully! I wish I would have had this book at the beginning of my journey it would have saved me a lot of time and heart ache! I would definitely recommend this to those who are searching to get out of internal pain and feel fulfilled in themselves and their relationships
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  • Erik Seversen
    5.0 out of 5 stars A Great Message about Vulnerability and Strength
    Reviewed in the United States on February 11, 2025
    This book shows people pleasers two important things. First: how to set limits on putting other's first (to a fault). And second: how to overcome challenges in life through a positive paradigm shift approach that helps people progress with clarity to self-actualization.
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  • Jason
    5.0 out of 5 stars Embracing Authenticity
    Reviewed in the United States on November 22, 2023
    Drew Deraney is a remarkable individual on a powerful mission to help men redefine what it means to "man-up" and to embrace their authentic selves. His book challenges the traditional notions of masculinity and encourages men to show their emotions, seek support, and live as the person they truly are, rather than conforming to societal expectations.

    Drew's message is both empowering and liberating, as he shares his personal journey and insights on self-identity, self-worth, and the importance of living a purpose-driven life. His words resonate deeply, urging readers to break free from self-limiting beliefs and to strive for a more balanced and fulfilling existence.

    "I'll Have What She's Having" is a compelling guide for anyone looking to overcome mental self-sabotage, live authentically, and cultivate a greater sense of happiness and well-being. Drew's passion and dedication to his mission shines through every page, making this book a must-read for those seeking positive change in their lives.
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    Reviewed in the United States on November 22, 2023
    Drew Deraney is a remarkable individual on a powerful mission to help men redefine what it means to "man-up" and to embrace their authentic selves. His book challenges the traditional notions of masculinity and encourages men to show their emotions, seek support, and live as the person they truly are, rather than conforming to societal expectations.

    Drew's message is both empowering and liberating, as he shares his personal journey and insights on self-identity, self-worth, and the importance of living a purpose-driven life. His words resonate deeply, urging readers to break free from self-limiting beliefs and to strive for a more balanced and fulfilling existence.

    "I'll Have What She's Having" is a compelling guide for anyone looking to overcome mental self-sabotage, live authentically, and cultivate a greater sense of happiness and well-being. Drew's passion and dedication to his mission shines through every page, making this book a must-read for those seeking positive change in their lives.
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  • Lorraine Caputo
    5.0 out of 5 stars Navigating Life’s Challenges
    Reviewed in the United States on April 17, 2023
    Drew writes openly and honestly about the experiences that led him to this point. He writes warmly as if speaking directly to a friend in order to pass along what he’s learned about navigating the adversity of life’s challenges. He truly and sincerely wants to help those who are at a low point in their lives and help them realize they have it within themselves to see it through and thrive. The information would be as helpful to women as it is to men. I highly recommend Drew’s book.
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  • Marinello
    5.0 out of 5 stars Intimate
    Reviewed in the United States on April 7, 2023
    Drew has written an intimate and deeply personal journal, depicting his personal struggles
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